April 9, 2022

To weaponize silence is to squander the sacred power and potential of it. 

A long time colleague is very adept at using silence as a weapon. He’s done this before and is doing it again, not responding to any communication from me. In the past I’ve eventually understood his rationale for this. Not this time. In the past his silence has deeply impacted me. Not this time. Clearly our relationship is over and I let that go with, frankly, more equanimity than I anticipated. His loss. His power play going nowhere.

More than likely we’ve all experienced and perhaps even participated in using silence as a weapon, as a tool for asserting some kind of power in a relationship. It’s not pretty and it’s generally not hugely successful in the long run. It generally doesn’t end well. 

Silence can also be used as shroud of protection when we are feeling hurt and vulnerable. But in that shrouding isolation our focus on our pain leaves little opportunity for healing. 

When we welcome and work with the energy of silence, our intention shapes the power and potential of it. If we hold an intention to exact pain or control in a relationship we squander that power and potential. We lose the possibility of receiving the wisdom that comes from deep listening at a soul level. We lose the opportunity to manifest that sacred wisdom in healing and wholeness. 

As Crones and wise women, we know this. I know this. Yet it seems this life journey keeps offering opportunities to know it again. Opportunities to avoid squandering the sacred.

Blessings of Crone Wisdom,
Judith